I saw the words above and thought about how sad it is that independence has been distorted. Yes it is good to be able to get on with things; not being frozen by people approval and a need to always have somone cheering you on. Yes, I get that not everyone will be on your side or understand and believe in your dreams but there has to be a balance. I have found in my own life that it is when I get hurt that I start putting on the whole ‘I don’t need anyone mask on’. When I have shared my ideas with someone and they have told me all the reasons it won’t work or when I have trusted in someone to do something that is important to me and they have let me down….in these times I quickly start to cover up and protect myself from my heartbreak my convincing myself that I do not need anyone. You k ow what I have learned – I actually do!
No man is an island, we are not formed to be loners completely void of love and emotion. We are not made to live in isolation – that is why it is a punishment for the most horrendous of crimes and a torture treatment. I get myself out of the isolation rut by letting go of the pain. I give myself time for God to heal my hurts and instead of letting my heart harden, I believe in love and wholeness again.
You see people will let us down. We let people down, but that’s the nature of relationship. We are all growing and on a journey. We cannot let a season of pain or one hurt cut that journey short and strip us of all joy.
Love and Live!
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