So there is something really exciting on youtube at the moment. I have personally been waiting a loooong time for someone of my generation to write about the complexity and multi-dimension of 20 -something women and men of African origin. Samantha Chioma has done just that in ‘Life of Hers’. I watched the 5 episodes yesterday and without being a spoiler, it made me think about the expectations I had and have of and for myself. Many people like me who there parents are first generation African’s who worked hard to build lives for their families, feel they (we) have a lot to live up to. I turned 25 this year and it was a surprise for me that I was actually happy because I had previously set a rigid set of guidelines in terms of how I could quantify my success (or not).
I am happier than I have been for previous birthdays because I have learned to be patient with myself. I am learning to enjoy the growth process and leave my life in God’s hands. I love ‘Life of Hers’ because it shows how we struggle to live up to what we think society and family expect of us when in actual fact, what really matters is what is going on inside…what we think of ourselves.
Watch it here: