I have just read a very interesting post by Samantha Chioma about women and baggage. (The original blog can be found here: http://samanthachioma.com/2012/03/12/the-older-woman-with-all-that-baggage/#comment-445). Samantha makes the valid point that a women’s experiences are usually described as baggage whereas a man’s experiences are described as….experiences. As a result older women can find it harder to find partners because men are turned off by the amount of “baggage” the woman has. First things first isn’t it amazing how men are cut the slack and there is one standard for males and a completely different standard for females. Do not get me wrong I am all for differences between men and women, in fact I celebrate and am thankful for them. However in this instance it is just not fair…not that life is fair but you know what I mean.
To add my two pence to the discussion I want us to take a couple of minutes to imagine a different world. Imagine a place where we all took responsibility for our actions, where men loved and valued women as their equals, where women respected and catered to men without a need to compete and prove points. Where women were happy to be women and men happy to be men; where differences were not seen as a threat and each person learned from their mistakes, took time to love themselves and were patient and understanding of their fellow human beings. Wouldn’t that world be a dream!
You see the whole issue of baggage and men and women not seeing eye to eye, and the innocence of young women being abused is all reflective of the condition of society. Reflective of all of us as individuals and the way we have allowed ourselves and encouraged others to think. It amuses me that we have even come to accept that women have baggage and mock the bitter woman. Love, Wisdom and Forgiveness are key and as long as we continue to devalue certain golden oldies in the humankind checklist of ways to behave, issues such as “baggage” will persist.