I opened my mailbox this morning to find my regular subscription to Seth Godin’s blog (http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2012/03/extending-the-narrative.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+typepad%2Fsethsmainblog+%28Seth%27s+Blog%29&utm_content=Yahoo%21+Mail ). It is marketing and business blog but the insights are good and never fail to get me thinking. The post today caught my attention because today he was talking about narrative. Now for those of you who are regular readers, you will know that I am story obsessed. No day goes by without me telling a story, re – evaluating a story or being someone else’s story. Anyway story obsession aside, I was struck by Seth’s acknowledgement of the way stories impact our lives. Often if we want to change, we have to change the stories (narratives) we tell ourselves and others. However some people get stuck in ruts and are miserable because they are too scared, lazy or passive to change. Seth puts it this way:
“The truth is…what you’ve been doing is going to get you what you’ve been getting. If the narrative is getting in the way, if the archetypes you’ve been modeling and the worldview you’ve been nursing no longer match the culture, the economy or your goals, something’s got to give.”
The fact of the matter is if you desire change you have to change. Lasting change starts in the mind. If you act brainlessly or just follow trends it is hard to keep up with what you are doing. If you do keep up with the acts, the satisfaction lags or is non existent.
Take me, I have embarked on a journey as a writer. I believe that I am a writer and when people ask me who I am, I say I am a writer. Yes I have a day job and no I do not particularly enjoy my day job but it is something I am doing for the moment while I develop as a writer. Notice how I am still saying I am a writer. Since I changed my narrative and the way I see myself, I have found my actions change and I make more headway in my passions, I enjoy life a whole lot more and I am satisfied.
The stories you tell yourself are often who we are. Shocking really but it is what it is. If you don’t like it…change the script.