This morning I woke up (Thank God) and as I ran my bath water and brushed my teeth, started thinking about the day. Gradually thoughts drifted to my day at work, my family, friends and life in general. This week has been a hard week for me emotionally. I then started thinking about anything I could do better. I contemplated trying different techniques to try and force what I want out of people and then had the following revelation: what I have done already is good enough. I have tried my best, my best was good enough but the outcome I wanted was just not meant to be. Wow.
This revelation I know is going to change my life and probably yours if you can fully grasp it.
Often I spend a lot of time reflecting, planning, organising, strategising just to see what I had envisioned fall to pieces. I learn from the situation and what I can do differently should a similar situation arise in the future, I do differently. However what about those times I have done all I can do in my power and it still goes wrong. Does it mean I wasn’t good enough? Does it mean I misread something along the way? No it does not. Do not get me wrong, most times there is room for change, improvement, lesson learning. But sometimes we have to accept that the alternative outcome (the unanticipated one) might have been the one we needed. In other words your best can be good enough but the outcome you wanted was not God’s plan or just not meant to be.
For example sometimes things go wrong in our family, love relationships and friendships and we can get caught up in a vicious circle of trying to mould and manipulate a person into a different person so that they can get out of their lives what we envisioned. Think: that girlfriend/ boyfriend you manipulate to try and make stay/ that sibling who always caused trouble for the family. There are some things that are simply beyond our control.
Put simply – sometimes your best is good enough.
I cannot give you one blanket rule to know when. You have to spend time getting to know God, yourself and others and in the weirdest of ways, you will just know.