Ok so now time for my part 3 of ‘Finding Myself’. A huge event that affected my life was my first heartbreak. Often peoples first experiences of romantic love will affect the way they view relationships and the opposite (and same sex) for the rest of their lives. I believe that there are 4 types of people. Now let me make it abundantly clear that these are my own opinions, I am not a psychologist, or psychoanalyst or mind magician of any kind. What I am is a girl who has loved and lost, loved and won and had friends and family members with colourful lives and relationships with whom I have watched and been able to come to these conclusions.
So the first kind of person is the one who falls in love, falls flat and then hates anyone who is similar to this person who broke their heart. The next is the type who falls in love, falls flat and spends their whole life wanting the person who broke them, or types similar. The third falls in love, falls flat and decides never to let anyone close again. The fourth falls in love, falls flat, learns lessons and applies the lessons learned to their future romantic pursuits. Those are my four.
I know many of the first 3 types. All ultimately lead to a very frustrated and unfulfilling or temporary happiness. The fourth is the one that sets you free to make mistakes, love, lose, learn, laugh and continue with life determined to love completely, wholly and purely. After my first heart break I had a decision to make. I knew many friends who kept making the same mistakes with the same kinds of guys or who became ice queens and suffered even more because ultimately we all have to feel. I knew that one day I wanted a husband and to be honest I enjoy getting to know somebody and becoming vulnerable. So you can guess what type I decided to be. Yes I am a type 4!
So… one lesson I have learned on this jolly journey of life is that in all matters heart and otherwise – I must learn from my mistakes and not become bitter.
Smile Jesus loves you!