I recently came across a video of Brene Brown talking about vulnerability (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o ). The video was interesting because it made me aware of thoughts I have yet had no idea that they were fundamental to life, love and leading a fulfilling life. The main point Brown makes in the talk is that people need to allow themselves to be vulnerable in order to experience love and life to the fullest. The irony of life is that those who are wholehearted and confident are not scared to be vulnerable. Interestingly Brown found that after many years of research the only thing that separated those who felt loved from those who did not, is that those who felt loved believed that they were worthy of it. So simple…yet so true and this video has several thousand hits on YouTube by many people like you and I who like being told things that deep down we knew already.
Brown goes on to say that being vulnerable and embracing the vulnerability of falling in love or getting close to people is not comfortable but is necessary to live wholeheartedly. I decided to blog about Brown’s observations because although she is stating what I believe to be obvious, it is only obvious because I share her views. However I am aware that there are many out there who have been hurt and heartbroken in ways I will never be able to understand and are therefore trying to make it in life alone to avoid any further heartbreak. I write this blog to encourage thoseof you who have had any bad experiences this year and have resolved to live next year not allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
At this time of year it is easy for people who have been hurt to resent the festivities and allow themselves to become hardened to any possibility of love and deeper friendships. Watch the video below and know that being hurt does not make you any less of a person. To make mistakes is inevitable and the best thing we can do is take each day as it comes, learning from our mistakes and grow in love with ourselves.
Christmas is here soon! Don’t be a Grinch!